Posts by melanie

While eating breakfast this morning in a Louisiana Waffle House today, I enjoyed the friendly banter between the cooks and servers. The customers were me (white), a man (white), a woman (white), and a dad and two kids (all brown). I’m guessing about our racial makeup based on skin color alone. I hadn’t noticed the family in the booth until the white woman came to the register next to me and whispered to the server. I...

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Learnings and Observations


Posted By on Apr 11, 2019

I’ve logged 1,448 miles in 6 days, traveling from New Jersey to Mississippi. I’ve slept in Northern Virginia; Roanoke, VA; Asheville, NC, Atlanta, GA, and Jackson, MS. Two super cheap hotels, one middle-of-the-road hotel, an apartment, a house, and a backyard (two nights). I’ve learned that as long as the bedding is clean and I feel safe, I can sleep anyplace comfortably except when Bella is on my legs. I write this...

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When I planned the coddiwomple, I expected to camp under the stars or in my tent every night, but as it turns out, Bella and I will be enjoying hospitality offered by family, friends, and co-workers along the way. For example, we stayed with my daughter Brie in northern Virginia our first night of the trip. I stayed with my daughter in Virginia on the first night of my trip. Bella and I arrived around 9:30 pm, having gotten a late...

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The Things I’ll Miss


Posted By on Mar 31, 2019

I’m gonna miss my cozy bed when I’m sleeping in a tent or on the 28″ wide plywood platform in my SUV. I’ll miss stretching out under layers of cotton flannel and an airy comforter, snuggled into a pile of pillows. I’m definitely gonna miss my bed. I’ll miss seeing my sister and the dear friends and neighbors who look out for me. Quite a few of them attended a “happy trails” party for me...

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The Journey Begins…


Posted By on Mar 24, 2019

“…Life is a gift, which we are called to use to build the common good and make our own days glad.” Sadie looks over my shoulder as we ready to bring Bella home from her Big Dog Rescue Project foster family. These lyrics from the Unitarian Universalist (UU) hymn “For All That Is Our Lives” are etched into my heart and literally tattooed on my skin. They reflect my lifelong mission to make my corner of the...

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Dear Dr. Melanie: My fiance and I have been together for almost 18 months now. When we first got together the sex was often and amazing. It lasted a very long time, and I usually had multiple orgasms. Lately I am lucky if we have sex 3 times a month, and when we do it is very short and I rarely orgasm even once. He says that he is still very attracted to me and wants me, but I feel like he doesn’t anymore. I feel like he may be...

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I read a sex advice column today that mentions the G spot, A spot, U spot and C spot — all on the female body. Seriously, can we get away from this trend of making up names? The U spot is the opening to the urethra (yes, some men and women like it stimulated); the C spot is the clitoris; the G spot  is an internal pleasure zone for  some but not all women; and the A spot isn’t the anus — it’s a nerve-dense area...

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